Unconscious

I was listening to a person talk to their child the other day and it set off some alarms in me. Because of some of my training I understand the importance of suggestion especially on small children because they haven't developed the skill of discrimination yet. Until the age around 6 youngster are in a delta brain wave pattern and all suggestions are recorded and internalized.
When people unconsciouly say things that are negative the child will play that program until something is done to remove it or neutralize it.
Suggestions can include but are not limited to their appearance, the way we treat others and right and wrong. Most people grow up with a lack of self confidence because they pick it up from their environment. If the environment dictates that we never should trust our own decisions, we are never good enough, never pretty enough, never tall enough, never smart enough then our only option is to be substandard.
I have worked with a lot of people that have been physically and sexually abused and they generally have such low self esteem, they can be hard to reach because of embedded programs that stop them from loving and accepting themselves for being a wonder aspect of creation. Some children are born with a feeling of self defeat because they may already feel unwanted from energies that are around them as they are growing in the mothers body. If the couple is fighting or feelings of discord are around them during this preconception period it is energetically affecting the developing fetus's auric field.
Many people grow up with the feeling of not being good enough, because they are constantly being compared to others. Comparison is one of the many distructive things we do to each other. You're fatter, your skinner, your dumber labels are being used all the time and these ideas perpetuate themselves through the educational system. Some times people will grow out of these limitations and sometimes the patterns persist throughout life.
One way of looking at this is "my family history is that everybody is diabetic", to me that just says that everybody eats badly. A genetically weak person can change their behaviors enough that these health challenges are never a concern if they work in harmony with the body to resolve any weaknesses. But if you continue to eat like your diabetic family does then diabetes is possibly in their future.
Whatever you set your mind to you can change if you are given the right suggestions and a willingness to change. I've met too many people that were left for dead that completely reversed their state of health by making changes instead of just learning to LIVE with them.
Back to the point that whatever ideas we are implanted with during our youth is very important and it puts the responsibility back on us when the experiences are noticed. Given proper information everything can get better.